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Wherever a bevy of women of a certain age gather, there's sure to be laughter. A group of dames I consort with, 33 if we're all present, has had some uproarious times over the 14 years we've been together.

A splinter group plays canasta one Wednesday a month at O'Charley's. This card-playing arm of the bunch has been "melding" for eight or 10 years. Naturally, we've, um, matured and some, or maybe all, of us have become forgetful or addled or maybe even doolally.

Many can't shuffle the cards anymore thanks to arthritis and other problems, but we do have several battery-operated card-shufflers amongst us. They make the most annoying sound and seldom work properly. When we use them, people in the adjacent bar look our way.

Everyone in our foursome this past Wednesday - AJ, JoJo, Leanne, me - forgot some rule: deal 13 cards or 11? Is an eight worth five or 10? What's wrong with two wild cards and two naturals in one meld?

Our silly mistakes kept us laughing, but then we veered to a discussion about memory loss. Because my husband has dementia I'm considered the "expert." Someone asked how you would know if forgetting was just old age or a sign of dementia?

I told them that counting backwards by sevens was a test Peter's doctor always does. Several years ago, he could count backwards so quickly that she would stop him when he got to 51 saying "Well done, good enough."

"Why I could never do that," AJ huffed. JoJo agreed, and I knew I wouldn't get below 93 without pencil and paper. Leanne, the best of us at numbers, started counting, and soon we all helped by "air writing" the figures. We laughed hysterically at ourselves, four women on the shady side of 70 who couldn't do simple subtraction. We managed to count as far as 65. "We did pretty well, didn't we?" Joanne said.

"Yeah, but it took all four of us to do it," Leanne said.

I love it when stars align, four-leaf clovers stand taller, and blog post ideas spring from unexpected sources. The bit of trivia below came from the widower of a dear friend who always had a joke and who I long ago dubbed the group's "Raconteur Royale."

"Common entertainment [in the good ol' days] included playing cards. However, there was a tax levied when purchasing playing cards…applicable [only] to the ace of spades. To avoid paying the tax, people would purchase 51 cards instead. Yet, since most games require 52 cards, these people were thought to be stupid or dumb because they weren't 'playing with a full deck.'"

- Judy Clarke

Judy Clarke is a wife, mother of two daughters, grandmother to two grown grandchildren, reader, writer and blogger in southwest Virginia. Her two non-fiction books, Mother Tough Wrote the Book and That's all she wrote, can be found on her friends' and family's shelves, and she's working on a novel, But why? (That's the title of the novel, not a question to self).