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I might be having a mid-life crisis.

I'm not sure because crisis is exactly the opposite of how I'm feeling, which is sexy.

Hard to believe, since I can no longer just bend down and get up in a single motion, and have a wrinkle in between the brow that is now a crevice you could lose things in. Still, I'm sashaying around wearing all my fancy clothes that are actually years old, but I would never wear before because apparently, I was saving them for my mid-life crisis. Also, I have clean hair. Never underestimate the power of clean hair.

I had no idea that this feeling was one of the mid-life symptoms. So I started researching, and sexy wasn't anywhere on the list of what to expect.

It did say that mid-life is the time more people step out with a young lova. But this makes no sense to me. Someone young cannot see someone middle aged without causing one to die of shock and the other of embarrassment. If anything, I'd have to get me a very old, blind lova. That is, if my husband says it's okay.

They also say there's a lot of reassessment, and I have been contemplating my life lately and wondering if I actually have one.

Many people quit their jobs. I don't have a job. Maybe I'll get a job! Yeah! That's it.

But then how could I go to the gym to lose the five pounds I need to rock my minivan right and attract my old, blind lova? All of sudden, I understand why men buy Porsches. They're feeling it and want to show off their bada** selves, while they're still bada**.

I read that a mid-life crisis spurs drinking, so I bought a couple of cases of wine because I like to be prepared. I don't know if that would go over well on my new job, but I'm thertainly giving it the ole college try. urp.

Not that I'm qualified for anything anymore.

I can just see me at a business lunch, cutting up a client's food and then, if he gets distracted by our fascinating conversation about what's on sale at the supermarket, forking some fish into his mouth. At least since he ordered it; it wouldn't come back out in a disgusted dribble like I just fed him clumped dirt. So there's that.

Okay, forget the job. I've got too much to do anyway. Let's see… well, the kids are all finally at school, leaving me with the bulk of the day to my own devices. It's the first time in over 10 years that I've had the house to myself for the hours of 8:30 a.m. to 3 p.m.

It's amazing. I can actually think when they're gone.

Silence.

Think.

They are gone. My babies! Oh my babies are gone!! Oh my GOD!!!

Pause for slug of wine.

Okay, deep breaths. Much better.

I do wonder what is going on in my body that's making me feel so full of… No. Not myself. I was going to say, life. Whatever it is, I'm feeling good. Maybe I'll take up tennis. Or start running races. Or schedule a little fix in the face? Or dye my hair a ravishing red.

Wait?! What if it's like when a person is near death, and they all of a sudden get that last surge of energy before the end??!! Oh no!! Is this my last bit of sexy?? Then it's gone?! FOREVER?!

Well now I'm depressed. They say that's a sign too.

Pause for another slug.

Whatever. For the moment, I got my sexy back.

Maybe hot flashes will be better than I think.

How you doin?!

- Alisa Schindler

Alisa Schindler is freelance writer who chronicles the sweet and bittersweet of life in the suburbs on her highly entertaining blog www.icescreammama.com. Her essays have been featured on Mamapedia.com and Bonbonbreak.com as well as in the book, Life Well Blogged. She is a member of "Yeah Write," an online community for writers, where she has won the Jury Prize multiple times in the group's weekly essay writing contest. She has just completed her first novel that she feels comfortable showing to someone other than her mother.